As a man, I appreciate her confidence. This woman has game that I rarely see other women sport. She's flirty in a non-traditional way and in my opinion sexier because of it. Having watched her and heard some of her stories I've compiled a list of some things I think women gotta try at least once. Even if they don't work (which I don't anticipate happening) you'll at least get a good laugh.
1. Ask him out!
Especially here in the valley, the idea of asking a man out is taboo for some reason. A girl is negatively branded somehow if she does this. She may be desperate, needy, or too brazen. But hey, if you're feeling it, then chances are he is, too, so ask him out. You already know he's going to say yes and that will come through when you ask him out. None of the negative ideas are going through the mind of a guy that's interested in you and you often know when a guy is. Men like to feel wanted just as much as women do and this will help do it.
2. Say what's on your mind
One of my associates is awesome at this. She would sometimes tell me at the most random times in the most random ways that I looked hot or what she wanted to do to me when she got me alone. I've spoken against this before in a different context, but if you're pretty much together, you're in the clear. Girls who do this kind of thing with no shame are very attractive to us.
3. Be the aggressor on the couch and in the bedroom
Whether it's hand in hand, head on shoulder, or arm in arm, you know when a guy wants you. If you want him as well, just take him when you feel like it. This may freak a guy out a little bit, but not in a bad way. Two things are happening here: a. You're asserting your needs and letting a guy know you're not afraid of your own sexuality or intimidated by his and b. establish that YOU are the one getting some and not him. He will move at your pace and be concerned with satisfying YOU.
4. Let him know you know what's up
How many times do you watch the same guy walk by you at a party or catch the eyes of the same guy multiple times in a short period. This guy wants you and you know it. Call him on it! An associate of mine used this simple ice-breaker: "I'm attractive. You're attractive. Let's talk." The associate I talked about in the opening of this post once used the head nod to get a guy's attention! He understood that! Stuff like this will convey much more to him than your desire to converse with him.
5. Let others know what's up
After my first prom, I walked my date to her door then inside her house. Her mom and her mom's boyfriend were on the other side. We talked to them briefly then exchanged the polite expressions of enjoyment of the other's company. An awkward silence followed and I thought that was gonna be the end of the night right there. My date looks at her mom and her mom's boyfriend and says "Mom..." before cooly gesturing them to leave the room. Up to this point it wasn't clear that there was anything more going on between us to anyone else. This removed all doubt and I appreciated and enjoyed it. The next day while hanging out with my buddies she did a similar thing. As we were parting ways after seeing a movie she pulled me out of the car by my hand saying "He's coming with me". Again, I felt pretty good and found her more attractive.
6. Demand his time
Don't ask for it. This isn't as inconsiderate as it sounds, but this does for a guy a similar thing to what asking him out does. It makes him feel wanted without you seeming needy. Guys like girls who assert their needs (confident attitude), but not those who are needy(insecure attitude). Guys like a break from the alpha male role once in a while, but won't admit it. By demanding his time you give him a break and assert your needs. After telling a guy you miss him, tell him you're going to do something and when you're gonna do it. That kind of confidence is just sexy. If nothing else, it'll weed out guys who just aren't that into you.
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